How To Make It Through Situations That Make You Feel Scared or Confused You’ll Make the Wrong Choice
1. Hear her? She’s tiny. That’s your little voice. Believe it or not, she knows what’s best for you. Always did. So you better listen to her or you’ll hear her again later.
2. Make the wrong choice (in your mind). Then make the other wrong choice. In which scenario did you die? In which scenario were you still alive?
3. For example, imagine all the different outcomes based on the different choice(s) that you’re contemplating (e.g. new job, new city, new house, new lover). The choice that you keep coming back to you in your mind is the choice that you want to make. Once you accept this, you’ll have to trust that everything after this will work itself out (because you’ll really want it to).
4. If this fails, call all your friends and get feedback on which choice they think you should make, based on the fact they obviously know you so well and what you’d like. Then make the opposite choice. Call them a few years later when you’re feeling joy or regret from the choice that you made.
5. Figure out what matters to you most. You can’t have everything (if you can, please give me a call me to let me know how I can have this too).
6. Pray to your Higher Power for guidance.
7. Trust that you’ll be able to make the right choice, even if it’s a different choice from the one you initially make, when the time calls for it.
***This advice is brought to you by lessons learned from deciding when to quit my job, where to go for grad school, and when to end toxic relationships. Life is just a roller coaster. If you don’t want it to end, just keep swimming.